How to sell your imperfections

Tips and Tricks to Truly Sell Every Part of You

One of the most important skills I learned during my undergraduate years at the University of Washington is how to sell my imperfections. One of the experiences through which I learned was as writing tutor at the Odegaard Writing and Research Center at UW, where I helped many students improve personal statements for a variety of undergraduate and graduate programs, internships, scholarships and more; I worked with so many students who I could tell were extremely talented and bright individuals, but who felt held back by one small thing: a bad grade, a difficult period of their lives, or something else. I remember working with one student who was making a career switch from a STEM field to Business. Because she had spent so much time in STEM, she seemed very unconfident about her ability to get into business school. She repeatedly told me that all of her talents were useless to her new field!

It took us a while and I could tell that for a while she was frustrated, but I think we finally got to the point when she realized that this was not necessarily the case. We talked about how being different is not necessarily a bad thing; it only seems that way if that is how you market your skills, to yourself and to others. If you keep telling yourself that you aren’t good at something, you’ll never be able to develop that skill or even find the motivation to try and do so. On a similar note, you’ll never give others the ability to have faith in you that you’ll learn, or even that you’ll be able to use your different skill set to contribute meaningfully to your new work environment.

In other words, having imperfections or lacking certain skills can absolutely be an okay thing if you show a willingness and eagerness to learn and improve. Learning how to talk about this eagerness is what I’ll call “positive marketing” for the rest of this post.

Another way that I realized the importance of positive marketing was after I lost out on a scholarship opportunity I applied for last summer. It was the first big funding opportunity that I applied for. I worked on this application for about a month, and even made a point to show my application to co-workers at the writing center, guidance counselors in our University’s scholarship center, and my research mentors. One aspect of my essay was talking about what I planned to do with my degree, and at that time I was planning on taking two years to gain more research experience and figure out what I wanted to do for graduate school before proceeding. But in my essay, I called it a “year off” of school. One of my mentors pointed out the negative connotations to “year off”, because it sounds like I’d be taking a year to do nothing when this was not at all my plan. Why didn’t I instead say that I was “using the next two years after a graduated to advance my research skills in developmental psychology so that I’d be prepared to successfully apply to a PhD program in this field”? That phrasing wasn’t even something that popped into my head at the time, but it was what I planned to do.

Something that I’ve realized is that people, including me, often like to sell themselves short, and for me this was an extremely difficult habit to break. I remember that in this very same application, I wrote that I wanted to be a lecturer in a university and do research when there is a higher title for this job: professor. This was what I actually wanted to do, but I was too embarrassed to say it at the time, and looking back on it now, I know it sounds silly.

Now, every time I write personal statements like that, I make a purposeful effort to go back through my writing after I’m done to run through my work and make sure that I’m always talking myself up. When I first started doing this, I felt really self-concious, like I was constantly bragging, but once I got into a habit of doing this, I realized that I was just saying exactly what I wanted for myself and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. And this simple addition to my writing routine not only changed how confident I sounded in my writing, but it changed how confident I felt about myself and my abilities.

This, along with some other lifestyle changes I made, really helped me see myself as a work in progress rather than a finshed product and that really helped find ways to positively market every part of me, including the bits I’m still working.

That is what I want for every person who reads this post: having things you still need to work on does not make you worthless.

Here are a few ways I’ve thought of to positively market things that you’re working on. These are some really useful self-promotion techniques. Can you think of other ways?

Applying to Grad School

Studying for the GRE, and other Tips and Tricks

Anyone who has applied to graduate schools in the U.S. knows that one of the most overwhelming parts of the process is taking the GRE. This was the aspect of my graduate school application process that I was least looking forward to, thinking back to how difficult it had been for me to study for the SAT in high school.

Since I wasn’t planning on applying to graduate schools at the beginning of my senior year of college in September, I also knew that I was a little behind schedule. I had about two months to prepare for this on top of completing school and work, so I knew I needed to work efficiently. About one year later, I can proudly say that I quite successfully completed the GRE and my applications for graduate school- I’m very proud and excited for my road ahead!

For those who have not applied to graduate school yet but are thinking about doing so in the next couple of years, here are a few tips and tricks that really worked for me.

part 1: Planning your application process (Starting a process journal)

So, you’ve decided to apply to graduate school. What do you do next? Each person’s process can be a little different, but I think a good first step for everyone can be starting to document (i.e.) what you hope to get out of this exciting next step in your journey. Going to grad school is exciting, but can often be expensive, so before you start hammering out those application essays, you yourself need to be sure of what you plan to do with your next step.

process Journaling

I began documenting my goals and aspirations for grad school (and beyond) by starting a process journal. This process journal was nothing fancy- it was basically a running google doc that wrote everything in- my goals, where I wanted to apply, what I needed to do to get into each school, what I need to do to study for the GRE, any short reflections any time that I felt extra overwhelmed. You can think of this process journal as kind of like Dumbledore’s pensieve- a place to store all of your thoughts and worries related to grad school when you know you shouldn’t be thinking about them

This is just for you- you don’t need to show it to anyone, you don’t have to write a certain amount or every day, you don’t have to keep it organized if that doesn’t work for you. Regardless, I really believe that having this really helped me feel less overwhelmed when I had to apply to grad schools, and kept me from stressing out about it when I had other stuff to worry about.

part II: Studying for the GRE

1. Reading/Verbal

The main thing that you’ll need to do to practice for this section is up your vocabulary. There is an app called Magoosh that you can get, and you basically go through various”levels” of vocabulary like a game. The best way to study vocabulary I would say is to just do it in passing- when you’re on the bus, on a break, when you’re bored, instead of playing Candy Crush, just go through the vocab. If you have friends nearby, quiz them! I would not recommend blocking out hour-long periods to try to memorize vocabulary words because the likeliness is that after that hour, you’ll forget! Regardless, studying your vocab on the go is a great way to knock out some GRE vocabulary practice questions in an efficient way

2. Math

Practice this by type, and focus on the type that you have the hardest time with. Go through two practice set of problems, then identify if there are specific types of problems you consistently get wrong (e.g., statistics, or geometry, etc). Go through problem sets of specifically these problems.

As you are doing practice tests, it’s also helpful to figure out which problems you can complete the fastest and which take you longer. You can use this to strategize how you plan to go through the test.

3. Writing

Tips for the Issue Essay 

Tips for argument essay

In terms of practicing for the writing section, there are two main things I’d recommend: 

1) Once you’ve read through these tips, create a general purpose outline for each type of essay. 

2) If you’re in a time crunch, practice one type of essay every other day- you have one hour exactly to finish the writing section, so 1 essay = 30 minutes.

Spend Monday on the Issue Essay, Tuesday on the Argument essay, Wednesday on Issue again, etc. Practice finishing writing these essays in 30 minutes.

Then, take a break (go to class, do something else, etc). Come back to it later in the day, and spend 15-30 minutes reflecting on what you wrote and how to improve– this part is the most important! You can find examples online (see links above) of essays that scored a 6. The point of this practice is to figure out what you can improve on, so when you compare your own work to those essays, keep track of things you want to improve on the next time you practice.

Through this practice, you’ll also get better at using your outline and then when it comes to taking the test, it’s just a matter of plugging in your points and getting that essay written!


Free Practice Tests are available to you through Kaplan and Princeton Review. I believe Princeton Review’s practice test also allows you to recieve a grade on your essays so you can see how you do. Take advantage of these! I tried to do about one practice test every weekend, BUT, it is important that more than anything these practice tests are just to get you into the mode of test-taking. So with that in mind, if you haven’t had any time to study during the week, I would not take a practice test that following weekend but instead spend time catching up on studying. 

Asking for letters of recommendation

You’ll want to ask for these at least a couple months before you plan to turn in your applications, and you’ll want to have the following materials ready before you ask for recommendation letters (these are things your recommenders will definitely ask for):

  • A draft (or at least an outline) of your application essay and any scholarship essays you plan to submit
  • Your most up-to-date CV or Resume
  • Instructions from each school about what recommenders should include in their letters.

It is really important that you give each of your recommenders at least a month or two to complete your letter. It may also be a good idea to send a friendly reminder to them one week and one day before your letter is due- at least one of my recommenders asked me to do this.

Stressed about getting that application essay all done before submitting your application?

Here is where the process journal comes in handy once again- if you already have your goals and aspirations bullet-pointed somewhere, you can start by copying and pasting these into a word-doc, and elaborating a little bit on each one. Most importantly, the outline or draft that you send to your recommender needs demonstrate why you’re applying to any particular grad program, what has prepared you for this, and what you hope to get out of the program. It does not need to be perfect draft by any means (but be sure to spell-check before you send it off!)

And, remember to send your recommenders a thank-you once they’ve submitted your letter

These are just some of the things that I did while I was applying to grad school that helped me to be successful, but it’s important to remember that this process looks different for everyone. Most importantly, remember that you can do it! It’s easy to get overwhelmed in this process, but try to keep your focus on the light at the end of the tunnel, because you will get there, and it’s going to be awesome.

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    Now, every time I write personal statements like that, I make a purposeful effort to go back through my writing after I’m done to run through my work and make sure that I’m always talking myself up. When I first started doing this, I felt really self-concious, like I was constantly bragging, but once I got into a habit of doing this, I realized that I was just saying exactly what I wanted for myself and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. And this simple addition to my writing routine not only changed how confident I sounded in my writing, but it changed how confident I felt about myself and my abilities.

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7 Steps Toward Better Research Writing

Although I love to write, I know that it can be an overwhelming process-even this is an understatement. Writing is a universal form of communication, and maybe even the most important form of communication. We hear stories and learn history from the writing that is left behind by past generations, and writing is one of the most common ways by which people voice their own thoughts, whether this is on Twitter or in a book. All kinds of information is communicated across various audiences through writing: healthcare information, financial information; written accounts of incidents through the forms of hand-written letters and emails, memories that are captured and stored in diaries just to name a few. Unlike spoken word, writing stays, often forever. For scientists and scholars, writing is the mechanism by which we pass the information we discover to the public sector, and thus, the quality of the writing that is produced is highly significant. 

Even though I’ve always considered writing one of my strongest skills, learning to write research papers was still extremely difficult at first. In the language arts classes I’d taken in high school and college, I’d learned to write artistically, but I never realized how different this style of writing is from scientific writing. 

Some say that scientific writing is dry, but I disagree: even though scientists don’t get creative with metaphors and other kinds of symbolism, innovation, another kind of creativity, is an integral part of science and therefore coming up with explanations for new scientific ideas and discoveries. Still, it takes a lot of practice to do this kind of writing well. Reflecting back on my own experiences writing scientific papers, I came up with a list of 7 steps that I believe lead to excellent research essays. 

Step 1: Read, Read and then read some more

You shouldn’t even think about putting pen to paper before you have thoroughly explored the literature about your topic of writing- I can’t stress this enough. I know how tempting it can be to immediately jump into it, but I’ve also faced the consequences of starting to write about something when you aren’t completely sure what you’re writing about. It ends up taking longer to write your paper because you aren’t sure yet what you want to say, and you don’t know what information you’re missing. Before you start your own writing, you should make sure you understand what the writing in your field looks like, and topics have already been covered by others. This will only help you to formulate your own questions, and know what resources are available to you. 

Reading papers is probably the slowest part of the process, but it is worth it to spend lots of energy doing this, especially towards the beginning. As you read, take good notes and make sure you really understand what ideas the authors are exploring and what conclusions they are drawing in their papers. You can use this note-taking template if you find it useful. You should also consider using programs like Mendeley and Zotero or Paperpile to help keep track of all the papers you read. 

Having a good understanding of the literature that you’re exploring before you start your own writing will only save you time later on: you’ll have a clearer idea about what you want to say in your own paper. 

Step 2: Read your Mentors’ work

When you read through writing, you might find yourself thinking about the ways in which you might add to or edit this work. Maybe there is another question or topic that you would address, or maybe there is a sentence you might re-word. You should assume that those reading your work do this, too. 

If you know that you’ll be asking a supervisor or mentor for critical feedback, it’s a good idea to go through their work and understand what their writing style looks like before you give them your paper to look over. If you’re a new writer, do this before you even start writing! You should expect that the feedback you receive will be based on the writing style of the person who is giving you feedback, and this way, you will have an idea of what they might expect to see in your paper. 

Getting your work published is hard, so this also helps in giving you an idea of what excellent, publishable writing looks like. 

Step 3: Create a working outline of each section of your paper

Once you have an idea of what you’re expected to have in your paper, you’ll be ready to start writing (YAY!). I sincerely believe that the most important step in actually writing essays is the outline. In fact, this step has become so critical in my process of essay-writing that I never write an essay without doing this first. 

You outline doesn’t need to be pretty or fancy or include latin numerals- you should do what works best for you. Sometimes it’s easiest to start out with a simple checklist, or a list of questions that you need to answer in your essay. This list is much easier to make after you’ve followed steps 1 and 2, and you have a good idea what you’re writing about. 

Step 4: Write from the inside → out

I worked as a Tutor at the University of Washington Seattle’s writing center for 3 out of 4 years of my undergraduate, and during my time tutoring there, this was my #1 tip to other students. 

The introduction and conclusion sections of any writing are always the hardest to write. You want them to sound well-written, and often what people do is spend lots of time and energy writing these sections, which leaves them with limited time to write the “meat” of their essay- the body paragraphs. Instead, try working in the reverse order. After you’ve completed your outline, start by writing the body paragraphs, and go paragraph by paragraph. As you write, you might find yourself coming up with new questions within each paragraph that you think are important to address. Chunking out your writing in this way also helps to make sure that you only need to focus on one thing at a time. 

In your introduction section, you’ll want to give a thorough overview of everything you’ve written about in your essay, and along the same lines, your conclusions should conclude on everything you’ve written about in your essay. Because you now have your body paragraphs all written out, you can save yourself from (a) writing introduction and conclusion sections where it feels like something is missing, and from (b) re-writing these sections over and over again after you’ve added new ideas to your essay, and (c) not having enough time to write the body paragraphs of your essay. 

Step 5: Write a little bit everyday

Every writer has their own process, and some of us have better concentration abilities than others. Because I easily get distracted and, when there is a lot going on, cannot concentrate for long periods of time, I’ve found it useful to spend a little bit of time writing every day rather than reserving a chunks of time to write a few times a week. 

When I was finishing off my honor’s thesis towards the end of my undergraduate at UW, I had limited time because there were lots of other things I needed to focus my energy on, too: getting ready for final exams, graduation, research presentations at a couple of different conferences, finishing research projects, going to class, two different jobs, and making time for family and friends. All the while, I had to maintain a relatively flexible schedule. I found it easier to just make it a part of my routine to find a little bit of time to write every day, and I used a checklist to keep track of what I needed to work on each day. This way, I got my work done without driving myself crazy or missing lots of writing time at once, and writing was also a less overwhelming process for me. 

Another reason why writing a little everyday is a useful practice is something that one of my mentors pointed out to me: writers who do this rather than working for longer chunks of time a couple times a week often produce more writing. My opinion is that this is a good thing- producing more writing means producing more ideas, and more material to work with. 

 Step 6: Get feedback early and often

One of the biggest mistakes I made when I started writing research papers was trying to get feedback after I had already written a significant amount of my paper. When I asked for and received feedback, it became really confusing to try and figure out how to take what I’d already written and shape it in the way that my mentors advised me to write it. Because I’d requested feedback so much later than I should have and it wasn’t shaping up to be what I wanted it to be, I had to discard what I had and start all over. 

I hated that I’d used so much time to write something that I didn’t even end up using, but at least this taught me how to write more efficiently. Seeking feedback from early on- right from the outlining stage- allowed me to ensure that I was able to incorporate my mentors’ feedback from early on, and I ended up writing a much stronger paper. 

Step 7: Writing about your writing: documenting your writing process. 

One of the best resources that I’ve created for myself is writing process journal; basically, it’s a running Google Doc where I wrote down all of my thoughts during the process of writing my thesis. If I ever felt anxious or stressed out about anything, I wrote it down here; if I got any feedback, I copied it into this google doc. If I was having trouble wording figuring out how to say something, I wrote down my thoughts here first. 

Keeping a process journal allowed me to have a focused space where I could process all of the thoughts I had related to my research and writing my paper. It also allowed writing and editing my paper to be a less overwhelming process: it is less stressful to see a condensed list of the changes that you need to make rather than a bunch of feedback spread out in different places over the span of 20+ pages. Plus, having documentation of my writing/thinking process also allows me to keep track of what I learned through this writing experience, so I can keep improving. 


Learning to write scientifically doesn’t have to be a difficult process, and these are just a few steps you can take to make things easier for yourself. In the end, learning to write well also takes a lot of practice. Even though it might seem hard right now, keep going and you’ll keep getting better. 


Check out this handy checklist of all of this info, summarized

Coming soon! My favorite citation makers and how to use them